One thing that's glaringly obvious after living here for a couple of years is that Thai girls cannot be summed up in a list of dos and don’ts. No matter how many of the Internet pundits out there try, you can’t write a guide book about girls of any nationality.
I find it perplexing reading blogs when authors focus on Thai girls and make attempts to class all Thai girls as one single entity. There are girls in Thailand who so radically break from the farang-publicized norm that they are grossly misrepresented by many of the people who write submissions for Stickman, among other sites. Perhaps with the influence of the Western world has come a new development in the mindset of Thai girls and Thai people as a whole.
When I first arrived in Thailand I was taken aback by the tales and fables about Thai girls. Every farang I met could sum Thai girls up for me in a few short sentences. Could life really be this simple? I was confused and yet intrigued, but I soon realised that these farangs only dealt with a small proportion of Thai girls.
There are a few Thai-girls myths that have been floating round the Internet for some time that I would like to address:
Thai girls are shy in public
A somewhat dated view is that Thai girls will not so much as hold hands in public, let alone kiss. The younger Thai girls I know have no quarms about holding hands in public. Kissing in public is a taboo, but it’s one that is increasingly broken. Public displays of affection are not uncommon, but if you start making out in the middle of MBK then you are likely to attract suspicious looks.
There is no such thing as free sex in Thailand
I came across this from the otherwise worth-a-read Bangkok Diaries blog. I don’t know where people get this idea from, but casual sex does exist in Thailand. And no, it doesn’t have to involve bar girls. Younger Thai girls are more modern than some people give credit for.
All Thai girls love farang
This one couldn’t be further from the truth. Just because you have white skin and big eyes doesn’t mean that you will be the desire of all Thai women. There may well be some envy of your characteristics, but this doesn’t always equate to attraction. It’s funny to watch clueless foreigners in bars and clubs trying it on with Thai girls, only for the Thai girl to step up and assert her authority. Wham!
Thai girls don’t like sex
I’ve seen this one pop up on the Internet a few times. The idea that Thai girls don’t enjoy sex is pushing it a bit. Thai girls are the same as girls anywhere else in the world, and with taboos about sex breaking down in Thailand in the 21st century, Thai girls are more open about the subject as a whole.
Thai girls won’t talk about sex
While Thai girls’ attitudes are perhaps a little different to those of Western girls, contrary to popular belief, Thai girls do talk about sex. You only have to listen in to a university-student gossip session to learn this.
Most Thai girls are prostitutes
It’s simply not true. A great many Western men only meet a small percentage of Thai women. No more needs to be said about this one.
Most good Thai girls are virgins
I read this on Thailand Guru. I hate the idea that anyone would consider it bad for a Thai girl not to be a virgin. How can anybody define a “good” Thai girl in this manner? Younger generations of Thai girls have, believe it or not, found ways to have sex and still be good girls.
Only bar girls take drugs
A common misconception. Whether it’s smoking weed, taking coke, ecstasy, even crystal meth: recreational drug use is not restricted for bar girls or “bad girls”.
Admittedly, my thoughts on this subject come from interacting within social circles of people my age. I don’t want to say that Thai girls are one thing and not another, but I find it frustrating when reading “guides” on how to date Thai girls or what Thai girls are like.
The new generation of Thai girls is very different from the stereotypes that older Western men impose on Thai girls as a whole. While I have a very real fear that an article like this could kill my blog once and for all, this is what is on my mind and this is what I've chosen to write today.